A Volunteer's Journey
Through hospice, I had an experience I would never have thought to be amazing. I probably imagined it to be scary. I thought hospice was home health care for the terminally ill; not realizing it was specifically for end of life care. As a Massage Therapist student, my initial thought was something I wasn't ready for, but I decided to go through the training and keep my options open. One of my patients, Bill, was not doing well. It wasn't possible for me to massage him so I decided to just sit with him and offer my touch by holding his hands and feet. The first time I saw him, he told me he just wanted to sleep so I left. The second time I decided I was staying anyway and would just be there with him. He mostly slept but at one point, I held one of his hands in mine and placed the other over his heart. A few minutes later, he looked over at me and said, "That feels really good, thank you." It was an incredible moment. It felt so wonderful to give that and the love that I felt tripled. About a week and a half later, I received a call from the facility who told me his status had changed and he was actively dying. I wasn't scheduled to visit him, but I decided to give up my structured schedule and went to visit him that night. I am so glad that I did. When I arrived, Bill's son was there. He was getting ready to leave for a little while and was relieved that someone would be there with his Father. I could tell he was struggling with his Father's condition and was hesitant to leave, even though it was unlikely Bill's condition would decline in a couple of hours. After he left, I sat down next to Bill and held his hands and feet. It just didn't feel right. Then I remembered how much he liked my hand on his chest. He peacefully passed away within minutes. I could see that he was ready and I feel that he chose that time to leave. I don't think his son would have wanted to see that and would have suffered even more so if he thought his Father had died alone. I am so grateful that I was with Bill during his last moments and was able to share with his son that there was no struggle at all, just peace. I feel proud that I could be there to handle the situation the way that I did. It wasn't scary at all. It was beautiful.


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